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Title: Need some prayers
Post by: Lothar1974 on December 01, 2017, 10:31:06 PM
Yesterday my wife had a biopsy done and today was diagnosed with breast cancer.  Head is still spinning and seems like a bad dream we can't wake up from.  Just had an MRI and see an oncologist Monday.  Hopefully will know more then. 
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Post by: Free Mr. Tony on December 01, 2017, 10:48:16 PM
Can't imagine the feeling. Good luck. Hoping for the best possible outcome.
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Post by: Michael_NW on December 01, 2017, 10:49:50 PM
My wife and I will pray for you and especially your wife. We have been through what your are experiencing . . . hang in there! We are also praying that you will be surrounded by those close to you who love you both and who will serve as your anchor as you go through the ups and downs of dealing with this disease.
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Post by: triplebq on December 01, 2017, 11:05:50 PM
Get well wishes to you and your wife..
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Post by: jdmessner on December 02, 2017, 12:12:22 AM
My thoughts and prayers are with you both. May God give you peace, courage and strength in the days ahead. I will be praying for you and healing for your wife. Keep us posted.
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Post by: yorkdude on December 02, 2017, 03:47:55 AM
Lothar,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
God Bless you all for a complete and speedy recovery.
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Post by: Canadian John on December 02, 2017, 05:59:14 AM
 Very sad news indeed..As bad as things get there is usually someone else worse off.. I wish you both well..GOD BLESS!
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Post by: Kristin Meredith on December 02, 2017, 08:00:25 AM
Do you feel comfortable sharing her first name?  I always like to pray for people by name.  Regardless, I will pray for her.
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Post by: Lothar1974 on December 02, 2017, 10:13:31 AM
Do you feel comfortable sharing her first name?  I always like to pray for people by name.  Regardless, I will pray for her.

Hello,  her names is Amy, thanks everyone for the kind words.  Will be a long road ahead but we have a strong support group of family and friends.  Will know more this week.

Jason

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Post by: Trooper on December 02, 2017, 10:35:21 AM
Prayers!
You want - you got!
I'm there everyday and including you and Amy on my prayer list.

SEARCH - "What ever you ask in my name " and then cherish the incredible verses that you have referenced.
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Post by: urnmor on December 02, 2017, 11:37:10 AM
You and Your wife are in our prayers.
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Post by: yorkdude on December 02, 2017, 11:41:19 AM
Prayers!
You want - you got!
I'm there everyday and including you and Amy on my prayer list.

SEARCH - "What ever you ask in my name " and then cherish the incredible verses that you have referenced.
Trooper that is amazing, many beautiful verses. Wow!
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Post by: Bobitis on December 02, 2017, 12:28:13 PM
Prayers and best wishes from here Lothar.

Dad died from cancer. His sister had one breast removed and lived many decades after. This was probably 40 years ago or more.
The love of my life had a breast removed many years ago. A year later, they took the other one and she had tramflap surgery.
Her then boyfriend told her that the surgeons had butchered her. No wonder she left him. Yes we keep in touch and still love each other in some manner.

I've no doubt that you'll be by here side every step of the way Lothar, but the battle goes deeper than anything you may see.

For some reason, women obsess about their breasts. I've no idea why as it makes no sense to me. It may be a cultural thing? In their DNA? Color me clueless.

Hold her hand every step of the way. Hug her every chance you get. Back OFF when you think yer the almighty councilor of resolve of all things. She loves you, but you'll never understand what she's going thru. Look for support groups (they're everywhere). By ALL means, don't take her 'supposed' actions as a rejection of your intentions. Yes, it's confusing as all get out.

Women are wired differently than men. To that end, it's the husbands job to navigate the ocean of emotions that may/will occur. You may find support groups for that as well.

Hang in there Captain.



 
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Post by: GREG-B on December 02, 2017, 01:33:42 PM
Having had one cancer scare, I know what you are going through.   Tell Amy they have done wonders and ####miracles with cancer procedures over the past 20 years and survival rates are up substantially.  I've also learned that one never gets over cancer, you learn to live with it.   Also a good support team is beyond compare.   
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Post by: ZCZ on December 02, 2017, 01:57:58 PM
Will lift Amy up in my prayers good MN friend!
Z
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Post by: Conumdrum on December 02, 2017, 04:30:05 PM
Pray for science!  It's what cures folks.  And cures Amy every time, think positive!
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Post by: pmillen on December 02, 2017, 05:04:18 PM
We will be praying that the Lord grant His mercy and grace on both of you during this time.  May the Lord’s power sustain you two until she's healed.
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Post by: Bar-B-Lew on December 02, 2017, 05:38:42 PM
Best of luck to you and your wife.
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Post by: TechMOGogy on December 02, 2017, 05:45:36 PM

News like that brings you down to earth and back to reality in a hurry
We will all be thinking of you and your wife and hoping for the best
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Post by: DE on December 02, 2017, 09:59:25 PM
We will be praying that the Lord grant His mercy and grace on both of you during this time.  May the Lord’s power sustain you two until she's healed.

Again, I stand in agreement with Paul. May you and Amy be even more aware of Gods Presence and Experience the Glory of His Goodness.
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Post by: Gringo on December 03, 2017, 07:08:36 AM
Lothar, very sorry to hear this.  Will be praying for your whole family.
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Post by: cookingjnj on December 03, 2017, 06:55:07 PM
Hi Lother.... all our hearts and prayers for you Amy and family.  Keep the faith, keep together and keep positive my friend.
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Post by: MN-Smoker on December 03, 2017, 08:55:32 PM
My wife also just got checked and their was a concern, but fortunately for us it wasn't anything bad.

Thoughts and prayers for you and your wife Amy.

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Post by: Trooper on December 04, 2017, 08:57:21 AM
Loth,
 Have been thinking of you and Amy a lot. Keep us posted on things as you travel on this journey.
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Post by: loungee on December 04, 2017, 10:07:42 AM
My thoughts are with you both. Best wishes to you.
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Post by: Lothar1974 on December 05, 2017, 04:08:18 PM
 :(  she has stage 3 and possibly inflammatory cancer.  Test tomorrow to see if it has spread to her bones which would the be stage 4.  Been a long hard 5 days. Hoping bone scan is clear and have a little more breathing room.  Thanks for all the kind words and support everyone. 
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Post by: jdmessner on December 05, 2017, 09:44:54 PM
:(  she has stage 3 and possibly inflammatory cancer.  Test tomorrow to see if it has spread to her bones which would the be stage 4.  Been a long hard 5 days. Hoping bone scan is clear and have a little more breathing room.  Thanks for all the kind words and support everyone.

Continued prayers for healing and a good report.
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Post by: silverbullet on December 05, 2017, 10:38:13 PM
Stay strong for Amy, Lothar She's gonna need you. Prayers to you Both!
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Post by: Michael_NW on December 05, 2017, 11:00:59 PM
Stay strong for Amy, Lothar She's gonna need you. Prayers to you Both!
I second it! And may God strengthen you for the road ahead! Lean on those God has placed around you, Lothar; they are His physical representatives of His love for you both.
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Post by: Lothar1974 on December 06, 2017, 10:51:56 PM
Some good news, was something on her liver we were worried about,  just a cyst.  Bone scan came back negative for cancer.   :cool:   Chemo starts next week and goes for 5 months. Then a mastectomy then radiation for 6 weeks.  Will be roughly a 10 month process. 
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Post by: jdmessner on December 07, 2017, 12:24:39 AM
Some good news, was something on her liver we were worried about,  just a cyst.  Bone scan came back negative for cancer.   :cool:   Chemo starts next week and goes for 5 months. Then a mastectomy then radiation for 6 weeks.  Will be roughly a 10 month process.

AMEN!! Made it through the first step of the journey. Praying for the coming months ahead.
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Post by: Michael_NW on December 07, 2017, 12:52:33 AM
OK, whew! Life changes and challenges are coming your way. My wife and I are praying.
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Post by: Lothar1974 on December 26, 2017, 02:26:17 PM
Shes had one round of chemo, hit her hard.  Been up and down days, lots of restless nights for both. She goes every other week for 2.5 months on this chemo.   She just had a port put in last week. Shes been out of work for the whole time and will be till mid Feb.  Not sure how we are gonna survive with her being out of work as she makes more than me being a physical therapist   :(       Christmas was nice with everyone from her family came up from Iowa.  Was a long crazy and loud weekend, 3 xmas parties as her parent are divorced.  My aunt died xmas morning, so more stress.  Sorry for the negative sounding post, just beat down tired today.   :'(
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Post by: Kristin Meredith on December 26, 2017, 02:34:00 PM
I pray for you both daily.  I wish I could do more.  Does she qualify for any state disability payments/insurance?  Please know that there are many that are thinking of you and Amy and wanting only the best for you both.
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Post by: Canadian John on December 26, 2017, 03:25:26 PM
 It is never nice to hear about someone going thru the pains of sickness ..I just wish both of you well and would like to second Kristins kind words(above).  God Bless!
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Post by: yorkdude on December 26, 2017, 04:05:05 PM
Sounds so cliche but hang in there, not sure how else to say it.
Nothing but loads of prayer and heartfelt well wishes.
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Post by: Lothar1974 on December 26, 2017, 04:14:27 PM
I pray for you both daily.  I wish I could do more.  Does she qualify for any state disability payments/insurance?  Please know that there are many that are thinking of you and Amy and wanting only the best for you both.

Kristin and all,

Thanks again the wishes.  We will make it through, sorry was venting a little.  stressful weekend. 
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Post by: cookingjnj on December 26, 2017, 04:18:11 PM
We fully understand, and are all praying for you and Amy!  Hang in there best you can and keep the faith brother!
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Post by: Michael_NW on December 26, 2017, 05:02:39 PM
Vent all you want - I think we all know, to various degrees, the effect of stress and trouble on our lives. What you're doing is helpful to both you and us here. We can pray more specifically and you can share your load with us. God give you strength, Lothar!
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Post by: Lothar1974 on March 28, 2018, 09:21:48 AM
Been a busy past couple months to say the least.  Wife is on second type of chemo which is once a week for 12 weeks.  She just completed round 7 and tomorrow will be round 8.  Tumor is allot smaller and barely able to feel.  After chemo will be a wait and double mastectomy and then radiation.  She’s doing alright, mostly tired, kids are a little anxious.  It’s been a rash of issues that don’t help with stress.  Had two aunts pass since December, costly car break down, front door issue which requires a full new frame, door and storm door. Nephew in bad car accident that was in the news (thankfully all are ok). All in all we are hanging in there and moving along.  I have had a shaved head since end of high school / start of military in the beginning of the 90's, to help support the wife losing hair I am not shaving my head (as I had already been doing that for years) so I am growing it long.  The super mullet is in effect. I was in middle school the last time my hair was this long.  Also sad to see how bald I am on top  :)     My 10 year old daughter is hoping to braid my hair if it gets long enough.  Sorry for the lack of updates, been hard picking up the slack at home and having extra time for anything.  Hope to post some cooks soon as well as other updates. Thanks all!
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Post by: Canadian John on March 28, 2018, 10:04:06 AM

 Thank you for the updates..I believe I can speak for all of us wishing you and your family well.. One thing is for sure, better weather is on the way, and that just makes one feel good.
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Post by: Kristin Meredith on March 28, 2018, 10:12:29 AM
Thank you so much for the update.  My prayers for you, your wife and your family are continuous.  I am so sorry you are all having to go through this.
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Post by: Gringo on March 28, 2018, 10:33:22 AM
Thank you for the update. Glad to hear the family is still hanging in there with all the adversity in your lives right now.  Just know, that prayer continue to come your way.  Stay strong.
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Post by: Michael_NW on March 31, 2018, 01:55:19 AM
The update is much appreciated! Thanks for letting us know how to pray. Stay strong!
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Post by: RobertG on March 31, 2018, 10:07:42 AM
Thanks for the update.  Thoughts and prayers for you, your wife, and family. 
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Post by: Lothar1974 on June 05, 2018, 01:53:39 PM
Hello all,

Just wanted to share an update on the the wife.  Last Wednesday she had surgery, she had a mastectomy to her left side and they also removed several lymph nodes as well her ovaries and chemo port in her shoulder.  Was just short of 4 hours of surgery.  The surgeons said that everything went as well as it could have.  She had biopsies of her tissue / lymph nodes they removed and there was a small percent of cancer left from chemo, it was a small percent and considered good for what they found. She was in the hospital for 2 days and is currently home and recovering.  At this point they said she is considered cancer free.  She will have 4 - 6 weeks to recover and start radiation for 6 weeks 5 days a week. Has been a long week since the surgery but we are surviving, I think   :)

Have not had much of a chance to smoke anything this year or get on here much, hoping to so more of each when things calm a little more.  Hope everyoner is doing well and will update again with the next hurdle.  Thanks everyone!
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Post by: Bar-B-Lew on June 05, 2018, 02:48:56 PM
Congratulations and continued best of luck.
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Post by: Kristin Meredith on June 05, 2018, 03:26:00 PM
So good to hear.  I pray for your wife and you and your entire family everyday and I hope you all continue the journey with strength and calmness.  I have had friends with the same type of cancer and I know your wife will continue to feel tired and drained for months and months, so I hope you all don't become discouraged.   She has beat a terrible disease and is heading for a hopeful future.  My prayers will be with you all everyday.  Thanks for updating us. I wish we were close enough to smoke something for you!
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Post by: Clonesmoker on June 05, 2018, 03:27:02 PM
Thoughts and prayers. I have a friend who had colon cancer, went into remission, came back and he had to have his colon removed. 6 Months later, it has spread to his liver. He had to finally quite his job.  He will probably have to be on chemo the rest of his life. Cancer sucks!!
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Post by: pmillen on June 05, 2018, 04:25:48 PM
It works out, Clonesmoker Lothar.  Marcia's mastectomy, lymph node removal, radiation, and all was in 1989.  She's been fine for almost 30 years.

As we see it, the greatest risk now is lymphedema, but that's manageable.

EDIT:  Dumb me.
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Post by: Lothar1974 on June 05, 2018, 04:44:50 PM
It works out, Clonesmoker.  Marcia's mastectomy, lymph node removal, radiation, and all was in 1989.  She's been fine for almost 30 years.

As we see it, the greatest risk now is lymphedema, but that's manageable.

Yeah , lymphedema is what we have to look out for as well, her potential percentage increased quite a bit with the procedure and radiation coming up. 
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Post by: Bentley on June 05, 2018, 08:11:03 PM
Outstanding News!
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Post by: ZCZ on June 05, 2018, 09:41:59 PM
Glad to hear things are looking better good friend!  We are all pulling for you and praying for you.
Alan
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Post by: cookingjnj on June 05, 2018, 09:53:23 PM
Thanks for the update Lothar....sounds like things are going as best they can and that is outstanding.  Our hearts and prayers continue for a continued speedy recovery.
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Post by: Jon515 on June 06, 2018, 01:12:31 AM
Prayers with you and you wife. 


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Post by: yorkdude on June 06, 2018, 05:27:55 AM
That is fantastic news.
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Post by: Trooper on June 06, 2018, 07:00:19 AM
It's has certainly been a very serious battle thus far, Lothar.
Be comforted with our prayers.
The road from here on out will be much smoother.
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Post by: Canadian John on June 06, 2018, 09:28:12 AM
 Thanks for the update.  I wish you well in in the recovery process my friend!  God bless.
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Post by: Gringo on June 06, 2018, 02:35:07 PM
Lothar,  glad to hear things have gone as well as they could.  Continued prayers....
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Post by: DMAXNAZ on June 07, 2018, 09:05:15 PM
Good news. Hope she has a speedy recovery!
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Post by: SparkyLB on June 08, 2018, 03:08:49 PM
I'm praying for you two.  May only the best God has to offer come your way. 
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Post by: Trooper on June 09, 2018, 09:15:11 PM
My recent bout with cancer has left me very much on edge.
I went into surgery following much prayer.
My tests since the surgery are with negative results - yet I still feel uneasy about having had cancer in my body.
You wife will need as much comfort as you and friends can possibly give her.

Keep the faith!